The best way to write a sympathy card is to be genuine and simply say what you feel

Things to Avoid in a Sympathy Letter

Posted: May 3rd, 2011 | Author: writer | Filed under: Articles and guides | Tags: , , , , , , , , , | No Comments »

When someone dies, it could be very hard to find the right words to express your condolences. Writing a sympathy letter should be done with utmost care because saying the wrong thing could offend, upset or confuse the bereaved. The last thing you want after someone lost a loved one is to add insult to injury. There are some phrases and words that you should avoid writing in a sympathy letter.

Mostly, when people write these messages, the meaning is not what they intended but they just failed to see it from the bereaved’ view or have no idea how the message could be interpreted. One of the things that you should not write in a sympathy letter is the words: ‘I know how you feel”.  Nobody knows the extent of pain and sorrow that a person is going through. Even if you experienced this kind of loss before, the feeling often differs depending on the person experiencing it.

Another thing you should avoid saying is ‘I know something good will come from this’. You can never predict the future and it would be extremely hard to figure out if everything will work together or the death could positively affect the grieving person. Although this is a way of encouraging the bereaved, the message could convey that something good could come from the loss, which is very hard to accept for a person still in mourning.

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